Writing meaningful vows for your wedding day

October 30, 2015

We've covered a lot here on the Eternal Weddings blog, from how to make a unique bridal bouquet, to how to find the perfect wedding dress and walk the aisle. However, one of the most special, and possibly most poignant part of any wedding ceremony is undoubtedly the reading of the vows. 

Once everyone has followed along with the familiar traditions of the ceremony, the vows are a sneak peak into the heart of the relationship between the bride and groom – an idea of what makes them fit together, and a hint of what is to come. 

While you can of course read out a set of traditional vows, many couples like to take this chance to say something that is unique, and that will have special meaning for their partner and the people with whom they are sharing this joyous occasion. 

You'll only get one shot to do this right, so here are a few handy tips to help you write some beautifully personalised vows. 


To help give you an idea of the type of structure to go for, take the time to read through some real-life vows online. Or talk to your family and friends – your words will still be your own, but seeking inspiration for flow and also length can be just what you need to get started. 


The whole purpose of writing your own vows is to personalise them. Think back to how you met, or your favourite quirks and habits that make your partner so loveable. Even the things that drive you crazy, but that somehow mean you love them all the more. Any of these can help tell a story and add colour and life to your vows. 

Often in a relationship it's the small things your partner does that make all the difference, whether it's that time they got flowers delivered spontaneously to your work, or how they bring you your favourite coffee when they know you're feeling down.


Whatever you decide to include, your vows should most importantly have meaning to you and your partner. Keep it short and sweet, as sometimes saying just a few well-chosen words can have more meaning than a 10-minute speech. 

Make it simple, and make it yours. This is your story after all, and you and your partner are about to embark on what is the most exciting adventure of all.