How to navigate your first dance

July 21, 2015

So you've made your way down the aisle, held back a tear or two at the 'I do's' and now it's time to relax at the reception. Once the ceremony is out the way, the hard part is over, right? 

Well, it all comes down to the next item on the agenda: you and your partner's first dance together as a married couple. For some, it can be a Cinderella moment for which they've been preparing all their lives, whilst for others it can be a nerve-wracking affair to match no other. 

This is our song

According to the Australian Bureau of Statistics, there were almost 120,000 couples who tied the knot in 2013 alone, equating to over 230,000 newly weds who may have had to take the first anxious step onto the dance floor.

Choosing the right song for your first dance is often just as important as having all the moves in place. 

"Whether you have a special song or not, it is important to make sure the song you choose for your first dance is "danceable" and the lyrics are appropriate for your wedding," advises Wedding Lovely. 

Your first dance can be as relaxed as you want it to be. Your first dance can be as relaxed as you want it to be.

"A good danceable song should have a strong beat and isn't too fast or too slow. And it shouldn't be too long either."

Anything too far over 2-3 minutes long has the potential to feel a little drawn out, so keep things short and sweet before welcoming the rest of your guests onto the floor for a good time!

Give us a twirl 

If you're planning a particularly adventurous first dance, it's worthwhile mentioning this to your bridal consultant when you're picking out your ideal wedding dress.

Tighter sheath and mermaid styles that hug your upper leg can restrict the amount you can move your feet, so if you're planning a leggy waltz or fox-trot, it might be a better idea to opt for a fuller skirt. 

In addition, if you've got something more than the traditional slow dance sway, you'll want to be practising in the type of shoes you plan to wear to your wedding.

Give your partner a head's up about the fullness of your skirt ahead of time, so they can watch out for the hem. 

Take your time

Whether you go for a choreographed dance or not, the most important thing is to make sure you're having fun. If you or your partner aren't experienced dancers, give yourselves plenty of time leading up to the big day to learn the steps and get them locked down. 

Take a deep breath and relax those shoulders, it's easy as five, six, seven, eight!